Sunday, September 26, 2010
The Fallacy of Playing It Safe
Speaking of Jazz, the above was something one of the commentators mentioned last night when he was referring to some of the popular orchestras of the big band period. Of course the sentiment doesn't apply to just music; it applies to anything you do in life. It refers to the fallacy of playing it safe.
I think about what drinking did to me. While I was drinking, I was convinced it was helping me cope, helping me get through life without having to experience too much pain. I thought I would rather be numb. The problem was, that made me small. I feared not just pain but everything that led to it: a fear of failure, a fear of taking risks, a fear of the humiliation that comes when you realize you're not perfect.
Sobriety has shown me that people are the most beautiful, and much more interesting, when they're imperfect. You can't peek into a perfect soul. You don't see bravery in someone who is fearless. The only way to catch a glimpse of someone's true self is in looking at how far they're willing to reach ... which sometimes means their reach will fall a little short.
Mistakes are blessings. Sometimes they mean we made a poor decision, but then we can learn from them. Other times they just mean we aimed high, at something lofty, at something great.